4 Tips for Writing Personalized Wedding Vows0
Writing your own vows isn’t for everyone, but if you want to speak from the heart for your Aspen wedding vows, that is a great way to make your ceremony more personalized. It also will be very meaningful to both you and your future spouse. Sharing your promises to each other in front of those you love is definitely romantic! Not all of us have a way with words though. Where do you even start? Here are some tips for finding motivation to write your vows, and ways to make them personalized to you as a couple.
- Pick a structure that you can both follow.
- Even though you will likely be writing your wedding vows separately, and hearing them for the first time on your special day, it is a good idea to decide a structure to make them similar. You can specify how long you want the vows to be, and choose specific phrases to base them on. I.e. Sharing four promises with the starting phrase “I promise to.”
Choosing a length is key as well. You don’t want one of your vows to be 10 pages long and the other only three sentences. Choosing a word count can help you make them balanced and flow better.
- Be yourself.
Write your vows for you and your partner! If you are not a romantic person don’t feel like you need to be in your vows. If you are funny, humor is ok! They should sound like you. Think of symbolic moments and important pieces of your relationship. What are things your partner would love to here you promise? What do you love about your relationship?
- Don’t be afraid to research.
Pulling your entire vows out of thin air isn’t necessary! Research other people’s wedding vows, romantic poetry, books, movies, etc. Take notes on things that connect with you. You can “borrow” other people’s words, it isn’t plagiarism when you are using their words for wedding vows.
- Practice reading them.
Your wedding ceremony should not be your first time reading them through. read them aloud and think about how they sound. Do they flow well? Are your words easy to understand? Does the tone fit what you are hoping for? You may not want to share them with anyone else but if you do it could help to get feedback from a close friend or family member. You don’t have to memorize them, but you definitely can. However, keep a copy nearby. Wedding day jitters could have you forgetting them. It is also a good idea to send a copy to your officiant. They can have a backup copy on hand in case you misplace yours.
We hope these tips will help you begin to write your own personalized wedding vows. Don’t stress out, have fun and take the time to think about what you want to say. Don’t be afraid to have many drafts and edit them over time. Happy Writing!