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Everything You Shouldn’t Do at a Hen Party


By Alice Prendergast

Description: So, you’re on the guest list for an upcoming hen do? Then it’s time to brush up on your party etiquette.

Hen parties are all about fun, but you still need to be mindful of your manners. While you’re welcome to get a bit tipsy and shout about the bride-to-be’s wedding from the rooftops, there are a few things you should restrain yourself from doing. If you avoid these little missteps, you’re guaranteed to be an amazing guest at your bestie’s hen party.

Here’s everything you shouldn’t do at a hen party.

Try to control the party

Yes, you may have helped plan the hen party, but you are not the guest of honour, so avoid peer-pressuring the bride into doing anything she doesn’t want to do. If your idea of a good time is going wild at the club, but she prefers more subdued soirées, don’t force her out of her PJs and to the nearest watering hole – she may prefer a Netflix and takeaway night, anyway.

Push the bride to far from her comfort zone

While it’s A-OK to surprise the bride-to-be, you don’t want to make her uncomfortable at her own hen party. If something you’ve planned (even if you think it suits her taste) doesn’t sit well with her, strike it from the itinerary.

Ditch your friends

This pretty much goes without staying, but you need to be with your hen party squad for the entire evening. Of course, if a handsome guy wants to buy you a drink, you can totally chat him up, but you shouldn’t spend your entire evening far from your friends. Also, no leaving super early without telling anyone – that’s a faux pas at every event.

Drink too much

Obviously, the aim of the game is to make the hen party fun. While it’s fine to indulge in a few boozy beverages, you don’t want to be the drunkest person at the event. Give yourself a limit so that the bride doesn’t end up being your babysitter (that’ll make her hen do one to remember, but not in the way she expected).

Complain about cash

Of course, being fiscally responsible is a good thing, but nobody wants to listen to you complain about your money situation – especially the bride-to-be. Keep in mind that she’s probably investing thousands of pounds into her big day, so you can probably afford club cover and one or two drinks or a trip to the spa. Pro tip: if you really can’t afford it, tell the bride-to-be and/or host you won’t be able to make it well in advance so that they can make reservations and you don’t surprise anyone with your absence when the event arrives.

Extend extra, unplanned invitations

You, the bride’s inner circle and maybe even the bride herself put a lot of work into creating the perfect hen party guest list, so don’t go changing things at the eleventh hour. Save hanging out with your other close friends for another night, this one’s reserved for the guest of honour and whoever she wants in attendance.

Be a drama queen

Drama queens may be fun to watch on the silver screen, but they’re not so great IRL. If you and another member of your group are frenemies or someone gets on your nerves, brush it off, take a few deep breaths and carry on. You don’t want to ruin the party over something petty.

Make the bride spend all her money

The bride has a lot to pay for in the upcoming weeks, from pre-wedding parties to wedding apparel to catering for all of her guests. Even if you’re not super rich, save a chunk of money to donate to the hen party. Depending on the size of the guest list, the group may be able to foot the guest of honour’s entire bill without chipping in too much.

Switch up the itinerary

You put a lot of time into making the perfect hen party itinerary, so don’t go changing it at the last minute. While you can make a few detours, it’s best to go with what you’ve got (it’s probably an epic plan to begin with).

Make the party all about you

Even if you’re the most outgoing person at the event, you shouldn’t try to steal the spotlight from the bride-to-be. Remember, she only gets one hen party, so you can stand not being the centre of attention for one evening. We promise, it won’t kill you.

Ignore the dress code

If the hen do you’re attending has a dress code, stick to it. The bride has requested everyone in their best 80s glam? Get yourself a neon bodysuit and scrunchie and get ready to rock it. Does she want everyone to don matching robes for her spa day? Embrace it! You can save that fancy dress for another event.

February 28, 2019 |

What to Know About a Destination Wedding Before Planning One


Article by Laurie Larson

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A destination wedding sounds dreamy, but if you don’t prepare correctly it could turn into a nightmare.

There are many tempting reasons to desire a destination wedding, though. For one thing, you have a beautiful landscape for the best and most important day of your life. It also gives you a shortcut to the honeymoon since you’re already in a dream location!

Destination weddings don’t have to be intimidating, and you shouldn’t give up your dream of a romantic ceremony in your dream locale just because people say it can be disastrous. As long as you properly prepare beforehand and understand what expectations you need to have, your destination wedding will run smoothly.

Make sure you keep the following in mind when planning for your big day:

Planning will not be a tangible experience

If you’re planning on having a wedding on the opposite side of the globe, traveling frequently to make all of the arrangements will not be practical. You may not even be able to go once before your wedding.

The disconnect you will have from your venue and potential venues can make planning feel 10 times more stressful. The good news is, you don’t have to do it alone.

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Because destination weddings are such a huge trend, hotels and resorts have capitalized on the opportunity to be your host. This is both good news for their wallets and your ease of mind. Many offer a package deal, including an on-site consultant who can help you coordinate all the need-to-dos before you say, “I do.”

It may seem costly, but it will probably save you money in the end, especially if you bundle your purchases. If anything, it will help you have a dedicated person at your destination who helps you start to finish.

Though you should be wary that sometimes these staff have large numbers of personnel who rotate duties. The person you booked with may be different than the one in charge of your wedding’s operation. Be sure to fully understand the details of your resort’s offerings so there are no gaps in communication.

You might be jet lagged

Depending on how far you’re traveling, it’s likely that you will experience jet lag from flying to a different time zone. Even if it’s only a minor change to one time zone over, jet lag can still have a big impact on your overall health and mood. The last thing you want to be on your wedding is a half-awake zombie.

Make sure to consider this in advance. You can prepare by clearing any sleep debt you’ve collected before you leave. This means you should catch up on your lost sleep and develop a healthy sleeping routine. A week in advance, you can start shifting your sleeping schedule to the destination’s time zone, so when you land, you’ll feel like a local.

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It will also help to arrive at your destination a few days before your wedding, so you have time to adjust. Be sure that you’ve checked out your accommodations beforehand, so you know you’ll be able to stay properly rested once you’re there.

The main reasons people report losing sleep are due to disruptive noises, beds that cause pain, or being located in busy areas with lots of light pollution. If you do your research before booking, you can make sure the place you’re staying will allow you to have a little rest and relaxation time before and after your big day.

People might not show up

You shouldn’t be surprised if people aren’t prepared to spend a ton of money to fly out to your destination wedding and book a hotel for a few nights. This is a big ask. And unless you’re loaded with money, you won’t be able to pocket the bill for your guests.

A smaller ceremony may be your preference as they tend to be more intimate and personal, but if you were expecting to have a large party with all your family, friends, coworkers, estranged family members, and old friends, a destination wedding isn’t for you.

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It’s important to be clear on your expectations before you start booking. It can also help you be conscious of how many people you invite. Some people may feel burdened by an invite because they will feel obligated to go. Others may be offended if you don’t invite them because you think you’re doing them a favor.

Be clear on your communication with all your loved ones so you can create an appropriate guest list before planning your destination wedding.

Your marriage may be void

Depending on where you book your wedding, your marriage may not be official. If you book through a resort offering wedding services, you’re probably in the clear, but if you choose to do it all on your own, you may end up with some major complications.

Getting a marriage license arranged in another country, especially when you aren’t in that country, can be challenging. This may be one more nudge for hiring a coordinator who specializes in helping you navigate these roadblocks.  If you’re stubborn and want to do it all on your own, be sure you do your research on getting a marriage license in that location.

While planning a destination wedding can be a large challenge, it also offers an unmatched reward. Though if after reading up on all the warning signs you’re not up to the task, no one will judge you. Besides, you can always plan your big trip for a bachelorette party or your honeymoon. Whichever way you choose, we wish you the best of luck in your happily ever after!

Laurie Larson is a freelance writer who enjoys writing on home, health, and lifestyle topics.

February 27, 2019 |

How to Maintain Self Care While Planning a Wedding


When you’re planning your wedding, there are a lot of things to think about. The invitations, the menu, the music, and transportation are just a small sample of the things that need to be taken care of before the big day. However, there is one other incredibly important thing that often gets overlooked as your wedding day approaches: self-care. It’s easy to become so focused on the details that you forget to make sure that you, yourself, are prepped and ready to go. After all, you’re the star of the show right? No understudies or substitutions are available. It’s your day and you need to be feeling your best.


Here are some easy ways to keep up with self-care while planning your wedding day…


Go To Bed Early

Having so many tasks to juggle while planning a wedding can make it hard to get yourself to bed on time, but getting enough sleep is one of the most beneficial things you can do to improve your health. People who get a good amount of sleep have been found to have improved concentration and productivity, which can certainly be a help to you when you’re choosing flower arrangements, or addressing the envelopes of those save-the-dates. Also, lack of sleep has found to reduce one’s ability to properly interact socially. Seeing as how your wedding will probably be the biggest social event of your lifetime, you may want to make sure you’re going to bed at a decent time.


Prep Your Body For Stress

We all know that planning a wedding can be stressful, but what does anyone really do about it? Stress can cause quite a bit of harm to your appearance, so you’ll want to do what you can to shield yourself its effects. For example, if you know that stress causes your acne to come back, then make sure you’re stocked up on Proactive. If cold sores are your main stress symptom, keep some valacyclovir on hand just in case. Stress has also been found to lower a person’s libido, which is definitely not something you want to deal with on your wedding night. If this is a concern for you, it’s possible that Addyi could be a solution for you.


Maintain Your Exercise Routine

Wedding planning may be taking over your life, but that’s no excuse to slack on your workout regimen. In fact, it’s a pretty good reason to stick to it even more! Studies show that regular exercise improves your mood, lowers your stress levels (see above!), and boosts your self esteem. And when it comes to exercise, every little bit helps. You don’t have to be running marathons to see a difference in how you feel. Workout apps like Aaptiv are perfect for designing a routine that fits your schedule.


Schedule Some Time Off

I know this sounds crazy, but the best thing you can do to improve your mental health while in the midst of wedding planning is to stop doing it. At least now and then. Giving yourself time to focus on other things will do wonders for your anxiety levels, and actually get you more excited to work on wedding stuff when the time is right. Take a break, watch some tv, go for a walk – anything to get your mind off the complexities of planning the biggest day of your life.


November 26, 2018 |

How To Make Sure Your Wedding Day Doesn’t Ruin Your Sleep


Preparing for your wedding is one of the most exciting times of your life. However, it is also full of important decisions and life-changing plan that cause stress. As the stress levels start to rise, getting enough sleep becomes a challenge. Many people think of sleep as a luxury, but if you’re going to avoid becoming a bridezilla, you’ll need to make sleep a priority.

More Stress, Less Sleep

Stress and sleep loss have a cyclical relationship. As you get less sleep, the emotional center of your brain becomes more sensitive to negative thoughts. At the same time, the part of your brain that applies reasoning and logic to your emotions becomes less active. Without enough sleep, a few last-minute changes to your guest list could send you into an emotional rant that would never happen otherwise. And, unfortunately, a continued lack of sleep only serves to build more stress.

Whether your stress stems from planning seating arrangements or simply balancing wedding planning with your work schedule, it can ruin the joy of preparing for your special day.

Put a Stopper in the Cycle

You can’t get rid of all stress. Planning for a wedding just happens to be one of those periods of life that’s unique, special, and stressful. By placing a focus on healthy sleep and using good stress management skills, you can keep yourself in good emotional equilibrium.

Take a good look at the conditions of your bedroom. Is there anything that’s preventing you from getting a good night’s rest?  Does your mattress support your preferred sleep style – back, stomach, side? Does the color of your room help you feel relaxed and calm? Is all light blocked out at night? You might need to make a few changes to give your mind and body better chances at relaxing.

Your personal habits and behaviors can also have a big impact on your ability to sleep. Try to:

  • Avoid Stimulants Late in the Day: Stimulants like caffeine temporarily block the release of sleep hormones. Try to cut back or stop your intake of soda, coffee, and energy drinks early in the afternoon to prevent a delay in the onset of sleep.

  • Limit Your Screen Time at Night: The bright blue light that some electronics give off can suppress the release of sleep hormones. Try turning off your television, laptop, or smartphone two to three hours before bed to help you fall asleep faster.

  • Eat Healthy, Snack Smart: A well-balanced diet contributes to your overall health, but it makes a big difference to your sleep quality. Avoid big meals close to bedtime as they can disrupt your digestion. If you tend to reach for a snack in the evening, you may want to stick with foods that help in the production of sleep hormones like almonds, bananas, or dairy products.

  • Be Consistent: A consistent sleep-wake schedule helps your body know when to start the release of sleep hormones. That means going to bed and waking up at the same time every day even on weekends.

  • Stress Management and Relaxation: Don’t forget the importance of letting your mind and body relax. Regular exercise helps relieve tension and stress and some forms like meditation and yoga can also help you sleep better at night.

With a focus on healthy sleep, you’ll be prepared to enjoy this special time with your fiancé and plan the wedding of your dreams.


November 13, 2018 |

Choosing the Right Wedding Arch


Wedding Arches

The right wedding arch helps set the tone for your special day. Over the years, couples have taken many routes to create their arch and tailor it to their theme. More traditional arches still incorporate sheer fabric and fresh florals while modern arches take a creative approach by using unexpected materials like shells, bamboo and glass. Some even shy away from the traditional arch shape for more modern shapes like hexagons, triangles, circles and more. The only limit is our imagination!

ProFlowers created a guide to wedding arch ideas so you can get a better idea of what you can do with your arch. They have tips for different ways to decorate your arch and inspiration for modern, classic and rustic arches. Their guide also has tips for different types of materials you can use so you can get a better idea of what you can do to make your wedding arch your own. Peruse through their guide to see what styles you’d like to incorporate for your big day!

Modern Sweetheart

Sea Shore Arch

Typography Arch

Classic Whimsical Arch

Timeless Arch

classic timeless wedding arch ideas

Romantic Arch

classic romantic wedding arch ideas

Rustic Old Vineyard Arch

Fall Garden Arch

Woodland Arch

rustic woodland wedding arch ideas

Full Guide

full guide for wedding arch ideas

August 17, 2018 |

Post Wedding Checklist


Post-Wedding Checklist

Your wedding is the culmination of months, if not years, of planning. After all, this is one of the most important days of your life. You want to make sure that everything goes as perfectly as possible. You’re creating the memories that will last a lifetime for you, your soon-to-be spouse and your guests. That means every detail — from the color of the flowers on the reception tables to the first song you’ll dance to as a married couple — has to be considered with care. Even if you and your partner don’t want to go all-in on an elaborate wedding and reception, there’s still a lot that has to be planned well in advance. Yet with all the thinking you and your significant other have to do about the actual wedding day, it’s easy to forget about all the planning you’ll need to do for the moments following the wedding.

If you don’t take some time to plan what you and your partner need to do after the wedding, you might find yourselves dealing with a lot of unexpected stress during what’s supposed to be the honeymoon period of your lives. For example, immediately after your wedding, you’ll need to decide how you’ll preserve your wedding dress. You should look for a professional cleaner or other type of service that can protect and preserve your dress for future generations as part of your wedding planning. This way, you aren’t left scrambling to find one in the weeks after the wedding.

Another important consideration for your post-wedding planning is how you’ll preserve the memories you created during the festivities. You probably have a mountain of photos and videos left over from your ceremony and reception. That’s why it’s important to set aside some time after the wedding to sift through them and create albums for you and your guests. Finally, there are plenty of practical considerations that need to factor into your post-wedding planning, such as filling out change-of-name and change-of-address forms, and scheduling ring cleanings.

There’s so much work that goes into planning your special day that it’s easy to forget about all the work that comes after that day. The checklist below will help you plan for everything that needs to be done after your wedding. So, keep it handy and you won’t be as overwhelmed when you should be enjoying life as a newlywed.


This was created by Ethan Lord Jewelers for Aspen Wedding Guide

August 6, 2018 |

Jet Lag and How to Avoid it at Your Destination Wedding

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More and more couples are flying themselves and their guests to their wedding destinations. Jet lag is what you feel when you’ve had a long flight that changes time zones – extreme tiredness, soreness, headaches insomnia, and feeling like everything is slightly off-kilter.

Your body generally knows what time it’s in, thanks to your circadian rhythm, or body clock. When you change time zones quickly, as you do on a flight, your internal clock gets screwed up and leads to jet lag.

With symptoms like that, nobody wants to deal with this circadian rhythm disorder. The bad news? Jet lag gets worse as you get older.  So, how do you avoid it? And how do you treat it if you do get hit with the symptoms?


How do you avoid jet lag?

  • Plan to land in the early evening

If you can, try and land in the early evening in the local time zone. That way, you can get settled into your hotel, have a light dinner and go to bed while you’re still tired from a long flight. Sleeping during your destination’s nighttime can help your circadian rhythm reset.

  • Drink water while you fly

When you fly, it’s easy to get dehydrated. It’s even easier when you drink things with caffeine and alcohol in them. Alcohol is also more likely to make you have to use the restroom, which will make you a very annoying seatmate.

  • Do some exercises or stretches while you fly

If you find yourself struggling to stay awake on the plane ride, try walking up and down the aisle or doing other stretches from your seat. Keep your seatmates in mind, and stay in your own personal space as much as possible. Moving around can help give you the adrenaline you need to get through the flight without napping.


If you’re lagging, how do you deal with it?

  • Spend some time in the sun if you arrive during the day

Our brains use sunlight as the way to tell time, so spending some time in the natural light would be incredibly helpful for someone struggling with jet lag. Sun exposure is especially helpful if you land in the morning, totally exhausted from your flight. It’s also helpful when you wake up the next day.

  • Stay awake until a normal bedtime in local time

You should try and stay up until your usual bedtime to beat jet lag, and to retrain your circadian rhythm. Scheduling a bedtime helps to build a new routine for your body in its new time zone. If you find that you’re struggling to fall asleep at the right time, try using natural supplements, like valerian root or melatonin. Or you can spend some time comparing mattresses for when you get home and want to crash in perfect comfort.

  • Avoid caffeine and alcohol

As I mentioned earlier, caffeine and alcohol stay in your system for a while and cause further trouble for your circadian rhythm.

  • Avoid a heavy meal prior to bedtime

As usual, a heavy meal right before bed is not beneficial to your sleep schedule, so keep your pre-bed snacking to a minimum.

By taking steps to avoid jet lag, you can usually settle into your new time zone within a day or two.  If you’re getting married at a destination, you may want to arrive a couple of days early to shake any jet lag before you walk down the aisle.


July 16, 2018 |
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