Mother’s Day was celebrated this past weekend, and as you approach your daughters wedding day you may be feeling very emotional about your little girl growing up and celebrating this big milestone in her life. It’s a special time for bonding together, lots of happy events and Planning a wedding together can be a very fun process, or maybe it’s involved a lot of butting heads and disagreements about everything.
Regardless of your experience, here are some fun ways for you as the mother of the Bride to be involved, but still let your daughter have the wedding she is dreaming about.
DO respect the opinions of your daughter and her fiance.
If your side is contributing financially to fund the wedding, it might be tempting to want to make the decisions. While your daughter likely values your input, respect their wishes and taste. Be honest about the budget and your ideas, but allow them to make the final decisions on vendors, decor, and other details.
DON’T criticize the dress choices.
While your daughter’s fashion choices may not be what you have envisioned her in on her special day, hold back any negative feelings. If you love a look, tell her so. If you are not a fan of something about the dress, share in a nicer way such as- “I really loved how the first dress fit you so well- maybe you should try another dress with that style but with the lace you want.” Shopping for a dress is one of the most fun activities for the MOB, make it a fun moment where your daughter feels special.
DO choose your battles.
You are likely going to disagree with some of the choices she likes, and it may be difficult to release the planning reigns a bit. But fighting about small details isn’t worth it, the important thing is that you will be by her side on her wedding day.
DON’T forget your dress.
While clearly the brides dress is the most important fashion choice of the wedding, you want to look special too. Picking out something special to wear for the occasion is fun (and for many MOB’s it can be stressful!!) Choose a style of dress that matches the formality of the wedding- i.e. you don’t want a full length ballgown at a barn wedding. And of course avoid WHITE. That shade should be for the Bride only.
DO provide some input for the guest list.
Ask the bride and groom about the number of people they are planning on inviting and their plans for your contribution to the guest list. Some couples choose to give each side of the family a certain number they can invite. Once you have received an idea of the number of people you can invite, share your list with them.
DON’T ignore a Bridezilla (or Groomzilla)
If your daughter is out of line or making everyone crazy with their actions, talk to them. If they are anxious or overwhelmed, offer to take something off their plate. Remind her of the important things- their love and rest of their lives together. The wedding is just one day, while it should be special, it isn’t the end of the world if something isn’t working out as they had hoped.
We hope you found these tips helpful as you continue to enjoy the wedding planning process with your daughter. We wish you both a lot of happiness and joy as you celebrate this special occasion as a family.
Recently engaged? Congrats! Getting started with the wedding planning can be overwhelming. Where do you even begin? We hope that Aspen Wedding Guide can be a helpful resource for you during your wedding planning. Before thinking about anything else, we recommend starting with choosing your aspen wedding venue. This is because you can’t really pick a date until you have a venue, and before booking anything else you need to know your wedding date! Also, your wedding venue will set the tone for your wedding. Whether it’s casual or formal, rustic or modern, the decor and other details should match up with the style. Here are some tips for getting started on your search.
Choose the date. While you can’t specifically finalize a wedding date until you have confirmed your venue is available on that date, having a rough idea will be so helpful when trying to choose a venue. If you know you want a winter wedding, obviously a venue that has an inside space is key here in Aspen. When looking at venues, finding out availability will be easier if you know you’d like a Saturday in June or July vs just a vague “any date.” Here are some more helpful tips for choosing your wedding date.
Consider the style you want. When you think about your wedding day what do you envision? Are you tying the knot in a barn with burlap and lace? Saying “we do” barefoot with a mountainscape and wildflowers in the back? Or do you picture a ballroom black-tie affair? Thinking about your ideal wedding day style will help you pinpoint venues that would fit into this vision. Here are some of our favorite ceremony sites, look through them and see if any fit what you are looking for.
Think about the size. All venues have a maximum for the number of guests it can hold. You want it to be comfortable, not cramped for space. Whether you want a large wedding or a more intimate affair, it is important to make sure your dream venue will accommodate your wedding size. While you don’t need an exact count (that will come much later!) creating a rough guest list will helpful in determining whether your wedding will be 50 people or 250 people.
Don’t forget your budget! Creating a budget for your wedding day is typically one of the first things brides and grooms do before beginning to plan. How much do you want to spend on the reception and ceremony venues? A wedding planner can help you determine the average costs and percentages of the different pieces as well as recommend venues that fit into your specific budget.
Once you have these questions answered and you have narrowed down the venues to a few you are interested in, set up an in-person visit.
Now that you have the basics covered. Here are some helpful hints on what to ask your during your in-person venue tours to make sure you find that dream wedding venue.
Will you be the only wedding on your date?
How long do you have access to the venue?
Is there a bridal room and/or grooms room?
Is it handicap accessible?
How many bathrooms are available?
What is the parking situation?
What is included in the rental fee?
When can vendors arrive for set up?
Are there any restrictions for wedding decor?
Are there recommended vendors? Is use of these vendors required?
What would be the rain plan?
Can I see photos of the venue set up for the ceremony/reception?
What are the available options for setting up different parts of the wedding?
We recommend touring at least three venues and asking as many questions as possible. Make sure you know exactly what is included and have a contract specifying these details.
One of the sweetest parts of wedding planning is choosing a wedding cake or dessert to end your night with. (Cake tasting, sign me up!) It can be overwhelming trying to narrow down the choices. Afternoon Delight Bakery can help with all of your wedding dessert needs, whether you are looking for a traditional wedding cake or a dessert table with many options. Owner, Ashley Buerger, takes pride in each and every cake she make as it is never “just a cake,” but a work of art and a delicious memory from the best day of your life. She makes everything from scratch and can help you with designing the perfect cake.
Read on for a few tips for deciding on a wedding day dessert.
Choose your desserts. There are so many options, but think about what you envision for your wedding.
Here are a few ideas:
Traditional multi-tiered wedding cake decorated with flowers or fondant.
Cupcakes in a few different flavors.
Small cake for cutting along with cupcakes or other desserts for your guests.
Dessert bar with mini desserts- macarons, brownies, cookies, tarts, shooters etc.
Cookies or pies in multiple flavors.
Consider your budget
It is important to be honest about your budget in the beginning so that your baker can recommend options that fall within this range. Typically tiered layer cakes are a per person price. To figure out how big of a cake you will need, this guide can help.
Think about your favorite desserts.
While budget can be a big factor in choosing the dessert you serve, think about your own tastes. Does the bride absolutely love cupcakes? Is the groom a cheesecake fan? Incorporating both of your favorites can be a fun way to make your celebration unique.
Think about your wedding style. Is your wedding venue and decor more casual? Or are you having a black-tie affair?
For a more formal wedding, the traditional tiered wedding cake is common. Casual weddings with a more laid back feel often go with the less traditional desserts- pies or cookies! If you are having a wedding cake, connected the design to your overall wedding theme or colors will tie it all together. For an outdoor wedding- a cake decorating with burlap or a naked cake is a great option. For a formal affair in a ballroom, a little bling or flowers matching your bouquets are beautiful options.
Choose a flavor. While there are many options available, keep things simple with a few options.
If you are doing a tiered cake, you can choose different flavors for each layer. Keep in mind that many guests will shy away from the more unique options in favor of a traditional chocolate or vanilla. AAfternoon Delight Bakery offers about 15 different cake flavors along with more than a dozen icing flavors and filling options. She can help recommend great flavors that go well together.
Have some fun!
Why should dessert be boring? If you really want to make a statement- Afternoon Delight Bakery offers a variety of Boozy Cupcakes- Strawberries and Champagne, Mint Julep, Margarita, and more! You can also offer a late night snack of cookies and milk or a s’more bar can be a lot of fun as well.
Here are a few examples of dessert tables that Afternoon Delight Bakery has done! These displays feature fruit tarts, cookies, brownies, carrot cake, mini cheesecakes and more.
We hope you find these sweet tips for choosing a wedding dessert helpful! What type of dessert are you planning to serve at your wedding or what did you serve? Still looking for a wedding cake or dessert bakery? Check out our favorites here.
The best memory from the wedding day was skiing down the mountain in our formal wedding attire together.
Riding up to the ceremony site with my dad.
How we chose Snowmass and Aspen for our wedding: I have never been interested in having a large wedding and Adam always envisioned a traditional wedding. So When Adam and I got engaged, we had to think through how to celebrate the day in a way that would work for both of us. Since we are both avid skiers and so are our families, we decided to have a ski wedding!
I have been coming to Snowmass since I was 10 years old and Adam joined our family for the first time during Christmas 2017. He fell in love with Aspen just as I expected and even asked my Dad if he could marry me while going up the Campground Chairlift. We wanted our wedding to be something special so we were able to get permission to have a ceremony at the top of the Elk Camp chairlift with just immediate family (10 people only, including the groom and I). The ceremony was performed by one of my brothers and Adam’s sister. Following the ceremony, we skied down with the photographer in our wedding attire. We had a happy hour at Ajax Tavern and dinner at Table 47 at Element 47, both of which were amazing. Although the top of the mountain was chilly for spring skiing, the entire day was flawless and we both agree that it was the perfect non-traditional wedding for us!
We both love the views of Maroon Bells from the top of the Elk Camp Chairlift in Snowmass and couldn’t imagine a more beautiful backdrop for our ceremony.
Ajax for cocktail hour!
Element 47 for the Reception: I have been coming to the Little Nell for dinner since I was little (long before the restaurant was Element 47). The level of service that the Little Nell provides is incomparable and we knew they would have the most amazing dinner for our family.
Happy April! April showers bring May flowers right? If you are having a spring wedding, you will likely have an abundance of blooms to choose from and if you are getting married outdoors, flowers will be blossoming! Choosing in season flowers can also help you save money as they are more readily available.
We spoke to Laura Lucero, owner of Sunfresh Flowers, to find out trends and tips for choosing spring wedding flowers.
AWG: What are your favorite in season flower choices for spring?
AWG: What are some fun ways to make your bridal bouquet more unique or personalized?
LL: Sometimes the bride will add a special charm that we will incorporate into her bouquet. Or if there is a connection with the bride and groom where they met. One time I used feathers for the bouquet and boutonnière because they met on a retreat that took place on an Indian Reservation.
Here are a few gorgeous spring wedding flower arrangements for some inspiration.
This bouquet features a luxurious combination of burgundy peonies, garden roses, hanging amaranthus, stock flowers, wax flower, hypericum berries, eucalyptus, laurel.
A beautiful bridal bouquet featuring dahlias, hanging amaranthus, garden roses, freesia, stock flower, aspen leaves, willow eucalyptus, stock flower. The colored hanging ribbons tie in the wedding colors and add even more dimension to the bouquet.
This peachy table arrangement is pure perfection! Ranunculus, crab apples, Queen Anne’s lace, grapes, lisianthus, star of Bethlehem. Various greenery accents.
Another pop of peach, this bridal bouquet has a lot of volume and dimension! Coral peonies, white Casablanca lilies, stock flowers, eryngium thistle, lisianthus, eucalyptus, renunculus, hypericum berries.
More Tips for Deciding On Your Wedding Flowers
Keep your budget in mind and decide on your most important desires and other areas that aren’t as important- i.e. a peony bridal bouquet is a must and the ceremony flowers can be more simple.
When starting to envision what you want your floral design to look like, start off by describing the type of wedding you are having- Formal, informal, romantic, mountain, glamorous etc. Your floral arrangements should fit in with the rest of the wedding decor and style.
f you have a particular flower you would like to include, share this with your florist who can recommend some other options that compliment this particular bloom.
Have a general idea how many arrangements and the types you will need. This can include bride’s bouquet, bridesmaid bouquet, boutonnieres, corsages, flower girl, reception tables, ceremony arch and aisle ways, and more. Your florist can share what couples typically include if you are unsure where to even begin.
Think about color! Colors should compliment the rest of your wedding decor. You can choose soft romantic pinks, ivory and white for a romantic look, or go bright for a color pop with bright colors or purples. There are many choices!
Use Pinterest, blogs and wedding magazines and choose bouquets that you like or the style you are hoping for. Having specific likes/dislikes can help you and your florist with designing the perfect wedding flowers.
Thank you to Laura Lucero for sharing her knowledge and expertise! Visit her website for more gorgeous floral arrangements here.
Springtime is a wonderful time to tie the knot. With blossoming flowers, green grass and mild weather it’s a popular time of year for many couples. Here are some of the hottest trends we are seeing (and swooning over!) in wedding fashion, color and pattern design, and food.
One of the big trends for wedding dresses is oversize bows. A feminine look, it is commonly seen on chic sheath dresses or ball gowns for a simple elegance.
Another popular trend is “celestial-inspired” with star filled designs. Dresses are airy and modern. Spring is also a great time to wear a floral embellished gown or short dress. Short dresses had a presence on the 2018 runway from tea-length to mini dresses.
Fashion forward brides can also choose a dress with a touch of black or add bold black accessories. The contrast between black and white is striking. Try adding a black belt for a subtle but stunning look.
Color and Patterns
Pretty pastels will always be one of the most popular choices for spring with romantic blush pinks and soft tones.
Bolder, brighter colors are a trendy choice. The vibrant shade of Ultra Violet is the Pantone color of the year and it’s a unique option for a bride looking for something fun and exciting. If such a shocking shade isn’t for you, tone it down with small pops of the color or use a lighter shade of purple.
Blue shades from royal to navy are also popular. Here are some palettes featuring shades of blue that we just love! Mixing blue shades is such a fun idea, why choose just one shade! Marble is EVERYWHERE this wedding season. From dance floors to cakes, this is a hot trend.
Fun displays and foodie feasts are still popular and on the rise for 2018. The request for local, organic and quality food is common. Many couples are looking to provide guests with a farm-to-table experience (Interested in this, Check out our Featured Caterers!)
Doughnuts are popular as couples continue to shy away from the typical tiered wedding cakes. Doughnut walls are one trend loved by guests! AND it becomes a part of your decor.
Another food bar quickly gaining popularity is a pretzel bar! How fun! Soft pretzels with a variety of dipping sauces from savory to sweet. Spicy mustard, honey mustard, cheese, chocolate, the options are endless!!!
What is your favorite current wedding trend? Are you incorporating any of these into your 2018 wedding?
Planning a Bachelorette weekend for a special bride? Aspen is the perfect destination! Glamorous, scenic and a mix of adventure and relaxation, there is something for everyone in your party to enjoy. Here are some ideas to help you plan!
The Viceroy, Snowmass Village: Is a popular choice for Bachelorette parties. They have luxurious 4 bedroom penthouses, a great option for keeping everyone together during the trip They have a 14 passenger shuttle that can be used to venture out into Aspen for a night out on the town without the worry of having to drive.
Hotel Jerome: Is a luxurious option with gorgeous views and a great location close to downtown. It’s the perfect spot to enjoy the many outdoor activities along with world-class dining and shopping.
Frias Properties- Another great option is renting a condo or home for the weekend! It’s a great way to have everyone in your group stay under one roof with enough space. Guests of Frias Properties enjoy health club privileges and also receive complimentary airport transportation.
Planning our your meals is important. Dinner reservations are a must in Aspen, especially for a large group. Both the Viceroy and Hotel Jerome have great dining options on property.
At the Viceroy, bachelorette parties can enjoy custom dinners in private dining rooms at TORO. Or for those looking for a more interactive meal, cooking classes with the executive chef. Must have dishes include the Hawaiian Tuna “Nikkei” and the Charred Brussel Sprouts- to die for! Sip on The Painkiller-(diplomatico reserva, bacardi 8yr rum , pineapple juice, coconut cream , orange juice) served in a fun pineapple glass!
Hotel Jerome’s J-Bar is a casual hot spot with vintage cocktails and small bites to eat.
Other fun options we love:
Element 47 at the Little Nell is a favorite of locals and tourists, Element 47 features impeccable service with the local, seasonal flavors of Colorado. Great ambiance and an extensive wine list! Brunch here is also amazing, mimosas- need we say more!
Matsuhisa is a popular spot among sushi lovers! The charming little blue and red Victorian house doesn’t look like your typical sushi restaurant, but once inside it’s a sophisticated, Japanese style restaurant.
Venga Venga Cantina is a fun spot to get the party started. Mexican cuisine, lots of specialty cocktails and tequila tastings. They also have an Apres ski happy hour 3-6 pm Thursday-Saturday with live music.
There is a lot to do in Aspen throughout the year.
If you come in the winter, for those that love the outdoors, take advantage of the amazing skiing or snowmobiling. Summer, enjoy hiking or river rafting!
Another great option for active groups include private yoga sessions on the Ying Yang.
Your group of ladies will be sure to enjoy some pampering during a spa day! Treat yourself to a massage, facial or get your hair and makeup done at Full Circle Salon and Mobile Beauty. You could even book them to come do your makeup in the hotel suite!
The Viceroy, Snowmass Village also has an amazing, luxurious spa with a variety of treatment options. You will want to spend the day here!
Ready to get the party started?
If you are making it an extended weekend, Thursday night free concerts on Fanny Hill followed by drinks at Base Camp afterward is a must!!
Check out Belly Up Aspen. This is a music venue and is busy at night!
A few bars open until 2 include Red Onion, Justice Snows, Eric’s Bar and Zane’s Tavern.
Escobar is a nightclub that has neon lights, a modern, cool crowd and music spinning. Perfect for dancing! Book a table to ensure you can get in and enjoy this hot spot.
These are a few ideas to make your bachelorette weekend getaway to Aspen one that is unforgettable! Thank you to Katie de Besche Director of Catering at Viceroy Snowmass for her contributions to this post.
Jill Pidcock became an ordained minister in 1994 and has since been officiating and creating ceremonies, providing spiritual counseling and facilitating classes and workshops.
Looking for an Aspen wedding officiant? She will work with you to design your wedding ceremony, and take the time to get to know you as a couple to create a very personal ceremony. Her goal is to enhance your wedding day celebration and build a rich and memorable experience.
We spoke to Reverend Pidcock to find out more.
Q: Are there any restrictions on type of ceremony or requirements to use you as an officiant?
A: No, there are no restrictions.
Q: How long is your typical ceremony?
A: 20-30 minutes
Q: Will you attend the rehearsal?
A: Yes, a wedding package includes a consultation, pre-wedding counseling, rehearsal and a personalized ceremony.
Q: Do you offer any options for personalization?
A: All of my ceremonies are personalized and customized. My focus is to create a ceremony for my couples that is a true reflection of them.
Q: Can there be readers or participation by family/friends?
A: Absolutely – these are encouraged. Examples of additional elements you can include in your ceremony are: Kids Participation, Pet Participation, Gifts to parents, Rose ceremonies, Sand, Hand Fasting, Four Direction Ceremony, Blessing at Reception.
Q: Can the couple write their own vows? Do you offer any guidance on writing vows?
Yes, I do. I can help make writing your own vows a very comfortable, easy process.
Q: How much communication can the couples expect prior to the wedding day?
A: Typically my couples have an average of 4 “meetings”, but I do not limit this.
Q: Do you offer marriage counseling?
A: Yes, I do. I have been a spiritual counselor for over 30 years.
Q: Will you give a sermon?
A: No, however, the ceremony is customized to include whatever the couple wants.
Q: Are you able to perform an interfaith or non religious ceremony?
Q: Can you marry at a non-religious site outside of your place of worship?
If you’re interested in learning more about Reverend Jill Pidcock…
Valentine’s Day, the holiday celebrating all things “love” is just a few days away. Although you may not be tying the knot ON Valentine’s Day, these ideas can help you up the romance factor at your own Aspen Wedding. Here are a few ways to make your wedding day full of love.
Light it up: Set the stage for a romantic vibe with different lighting. Chandeliers, candles, up lighting, or even a personalized monogram will add a special touch.
Engagement inspiration: Where did your significant other pop the question? Use this setting and any other fun touches to make your wedding day reflect your love story.
Choose the right hues: Pale pinks, whites, and reds are the typical colors of Valentine’s Day. For a softer vibe, choose pretty pastels. For a more passionate feel, deeper hues like a bold red or purple are a good option.
Share your love: Details of your relationship can add a creative and fun touch. Have your table numbers share something special about your relationship such as dating milestones (first date, favorite place..etc.) travel destinations, special quotes or poems, fun facts about each other- the options are endless.
Make it a family affair: Have a table with wedding day photos from your family members.. parents, grandparents, great-grandparents are all great to include.
Choose a song that means something: A song that is special to you or lyrics that remind you of your relationship are good options to include in your ceremony and reception.
Fit in some alone time: On your busy wedding day, making some time to enjoy the moment with just the two of you is important. Sneak off to a quiet corner for a champagne toast and soak in the fact that you are now married!
Grand exit: We love a fun getaway! Make a statement with a horse drawn carriage, vintage car, or your dream car.
Pinks and reds are the color of Valentine’s Day! (Photo: Katie Holstein)
Soft candlelight ups the romance factor.
Uplighting in your color scheme can reflect the feel of your decor.
Wedding Date: 12/30/2017 Bride and Groom: Camaran Roberts and Brent Allen
Camaran and Brent tied the knot on a warm, winter evening with 30 of their closest friends and family. They got married at The Aspen Chapel and continued the festivities with celebrations downstairs in the Aspen Chapel Gallery. Guests mingled, the string quartet played, food abounded, and the hot chocolate flowed! The bride and groom were sent on to their intimate Aspen carriage ride with sparklers at the end of the evening.
Where did you have your ceremony? The Aspen Chapel
Camaran fell in love with the Aspen Chapel the first time Brent took her to Aspen in December 2015. Brent proposed on New Year’s Eve 2016 on top of Buttermilk mountain when they returned for a trip the following year. They chose to get married at the Aspen Chapel as it was a part of their winter tradition and was an important piece of their story.
Where did you have your reception? Aspen Chapel Gallery
How did you decide on Aspen Chapel Gallery for your reception? Easy proximity from the ceremony for guests, just downstairs! Plus was a fun surprise to see what kind of art went up as the exhibits change frequently.
Where did you book your accommodations? Element at Basalt
What was the mood at your wedding? Very intimate and romantic. Camaran wanted to have twinkly lights and enjoy the city of Aspen at night when the streets feel magical.
What is your best memory? So many – how does one choose just the single one!?! First dance, it was to Storybook Love from The Princess Bride. Was the perfect moment!
Do you have any advice for a bride planning a destination wedding? I did mine from Texas and used Aspen Wedding Guide as my handbook. Have the wedding that you want. All the vendors I contacted were so helpful as well! My biggest help was I had a day-of-coordinator who was a godsend!